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40 mistakes men make while having sex with women

40 mistakes men make while having sex with women

1) NOT KISSING FIRST. Avoiding her lips and diving straight for the erogenous zones makes her feel like you’re paying by the hour and trying to get your money’s worth by cutting out nonessentials. A proper passionate kiss is the ultimate form of foreplay.

2) BLOWING TOO HARD IN HER EAR. Admit it, some kid at school told you girls love this. Well, there’s a difference between being erotic and blowing as if you’re trying to extinguish the candles on your 50th birthday cake. That hurts.

3) NOT SHAVING. You often forget you have a porcupine strapped to your chin which your rake repeatedly across your partner’s face and thighs. When she turns her head from side to side, it’s not passion, it’s avoidance.

4) SQUEEZING HER BREAST. Most men act like a housewife testing a melon for ripeness when they get their hand on a pair. Stroke, caress, and smooth them.

5) BITING HER NIPPLES. Why do men fasten onto a woman’s nipples, then clamp down like they’re trying to deflate her body via her breasts? Nipples are highly sensitive. They can’t stand up to chewing. Lick and suck them gently. Flicking your tongue across them is good. Pretending they’re a dogie toy, isn’t.

6) TWIDDLING HER NIPPLES. Stop doing that thing where you twiddle the nipples between finger and thumb like you’re trying to find a radio station in a hilly area. Focus on the whole breasts, not just the exclamation points.

7) IGNORING THE OTHER PARTS OF HER BODY. A woman is not a highway with just three turnoffs: Breastville East and West, and the Midtown Tunnel. There are vast areas of her body which you’ve ignored far too often as you go bombing straight into downtown Vagina. So start paying them some attention.

8) GETTING THE HAND TRAPPED. Poor manual dexterity in the underskirt region can result in tangled fingers and underpants. If you’re going to be that aggressive, just ask her to take the damn things off.

9) LEAVING HER A LITTLE PRESENT. Condom disposal is the man’s responsibility. You wore it, you store it.

10) ATTACKING THE CLITORIS. Direct pressure is very unpleasant, so gently rotate your fingers along side of the clitoris.

11) STOPPING FOR A BREAK. Women, unlike men, don’t pick up where they left off. If you stop, they plummet back to square one very fast. If you can tell she’s not there,keep going at all costs, numb jaw or not.

12) UNDRESSING HER AWKWARDLY. Women hate looking stupid, but stupid she will look when naked at the waist with a sweater stuck over her head. Unwrap her like an elegant present, not a kid’s toy.

13) GIVING HER A WEDGIE DURING FOREPLAY. Stroking her gently through her panties can be very sexy. Pulling the Page 1 40 MISTAKES MEN MAKE WHILE HAVING SEX WITH WOMEN material up between her thighs and yanking it back and forth is not.

14) BEING OBSESSED WITH THE VAGINA. Although most men can find the clitoris without maps, they still believe that the vagina is where it’s all at. No sooner is your hand down there than you’re trying to stuff stolen banknotes up a chimney. This is okay in principle, but if you’re not careful, it can hurt so don’t get carried away. It’s best to pay more attention to her clitoris and the exterior ofher vagina at first, then gently slip a finger inside her and see if she likes it.

15) MASSAGING TOO ROUGHLY. You’re attempting to give her a sensual, relaxing massage to get her in the mood. Hands and fingertips are okay; elbows and knees are not.

16) UNDRESSING PREMATURELY. Don’t force the issue by stripping before she’s at least made some move toward getting your stuff off, even if it’s just undoing a couple of buttons.

17) TAKING YOUR PANTS OFF FIRST. A man in socks and underpants is a at his worst. Lose the socks first.

18) GOING TOO FAST. When you get to the penis-in-vagina situation, the worst thing you can do is pump away like an industrial power tool – she’ll soon feel like an assembly-line worker made obsolete by your technology. Build up slowly,with clean, straight, regular thrusts.

19) GOING TOO HARD. If you bash your great triangular hip bones into her thigh or stomach, the pain is equal to two weeks of horseback riding concentrated into a few seconds.

20) COMING TOO SOON. Every man’s fear. With reason. If you shoot before you see the whites of her eyes, make sure you have a backup plan to ensure her pleasure too.

21) NOT COMING SOON ENOUGH. It may appear to you that humping for an hour without climaxing is the mark of a sex god, but to her it’s more likely the mark of a numb vagina. At least buy some intriguing wall hangings, so she has something to hold her interest while you’re playing Marathon Man.

22) ASKING IF SHE HAS COME. You really ought to be able to tell. Most women make noise. But if you really don’t know, don’t ask.

23) PERFORMING ORAL SEX TOO GENTLY. Don’t act like a giant cat at a saucer of milk. Get your whole mouth down there, and concentrate on gently rotating or flicking your tongue on her clitoris.

24) NUDGING HER HEAD DOWN. Men persist in doing this until she’s eyeball-to-penis, hoping that it will lead very swiftly to mouth-to-penis. All women hate this.It’s about three steps from being dragged to a cave by their hair. If you want her to use her mouth, use yours; try talking seductively to her.

25) NOT WARNING HER BEFORE YOU CLIMAX. Sperm tastes like sea water mixed with egg white. Not everybody likes it.When she’s performing oral sex, warn her before you come so she can do what’s necessary.

Page 2 40 MISTAKES MEN MAKE WHILE HAVING SEX WITH WOMEN 26) MOVING AROUND DURING FELLATIO. Don’t thrust. She’ll do all the moving during fellatio. You just lie there. And don’t grab her head.

27) TAKING ETIQUETTE ADVICE FROM PORN MOVIES. In X-rated movies, women seem to love it when men ejaculate over them. In real life, it just means more laundry to do.

28) MAKING HER RIDE ON TOP FOR AGES. Asking her to be on top is fine. Lying there grunting while she does all the hard work is not. Caress her gently, so that she doesn’t feel quite so much like the captain of a schooner. And let her have a rest.

29) ATTEMPTING ANAL SEX AND PRETENDING IT WAS AN ACCIDENT. This is how men earn a reputatio n for not being able to follow directions. If you want to put it there, ask her first. And don’t think that being drunk is an excuse.

30) TAKING PICTURES. When a man says, “Can I take a photo of you?” she’ll hear the words “__to show my buddies.” At least let her have custody of them.

31) NOT BEING IMAGINATIVE ENOUGH. Imagination is anything from drawing patterns on her back to pouring honey on her and licking it off. Fruit, vegetables, ice and feathers are all handy props; hot candle wax and permanent dye are a no no.

32) SLAPPING YOUR STOMACH AGAINST HERS. There is no less erotic noise. It’s as sexy as a belching contest.

33) ARRANGING HER IN STUPID POSES. If she wants to do advanced yoga in bed, fine, but unless she’s a Romanian gymnast, don’t get too ambitious. Ask yourself if you want a sexual partner with snapped hamstrings.

34) LOOKING FOR HER PROSTATE. Read this carefully: Anal stimulation feels good for men because they have a prostate. Women don’t.

35) GIVING LOVE BITES. It is highly erotic to exert some gentle suction on the sides of the neck, if you do it carefully. No woman wants to have to wear turtlenecks and jaunty scarves for weeks on end.

36) BARKING INSTRUCTIONS. Don’t shout encouragement like a coach with a megaphone. It’s not a big turn-on.

37) TALKING DIRTY. It makes you sound like a lonely magazine editor calling a 1-900 line. If she likes nasty talk, she’ll let you know

38) NOT CARING WHETHER SHE COMES. You have to finish the job. Keep on trying unt il you get it right, and she might even do the same for you.

39) SQUASHING HER. Men generally weigh more than women, so if you lie on her a bit too heavily, she will turn blue.

40) THANKING HER. Never thank a woman for having sex with you.Your bedroom is not a soup kitchen.

Multiple Orgasms

Multiple Orgasms:

The vast majority of men do not reach sexual maturity with an ability to enjoy multiple climaxes. This unusual ability is a talent that must be developed.

Dr. William E. Hartman, one of the nation’s most respected sex researchers said “The control of the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle is probably the most simple and the most direct answer to a man becoming multiply orgasmic.”

The PC is the largest of the muscles in the pelvis. It gets its weird name from the fact that it stretches from the pubic bone in front to the coccyx or tailbone in back. In most men it is a very weak muscle because they use it only when they come, and they come only infrequently and not powerfully.

The process of strengthening your PC muscle consists of a series of flexing or tightening the muscle, then trying to hold, so at the moment of orgasm the male is able to hold back the fluid and refrain from ejaculating while still having orgasm.

You need to experiment with it as you approach orgasm by tightening. The worst that can happen is that you’ll ejaculate , and with continued training you’ll no longer slip until you want to. Why is this beneficial?

Well, aside from the obvious reasons of increased male pleasure, it seems to me that the male’s inability to function over long periods has been one of the major contributing factors to the poor state of sex in America.

And the fact that he’s been taught that he’s all through when he comes, rather than that he could go on indefinitely. If you simply spend a few minutes a day exercising the right muscle, then you would doubtlesly have many grateful partners through the years, rather than having trouble erecting, coming too fast and so on.

The two exercises that you will need to be doing to enhance your sexual power are named “cut-offs” and “Kegels” or PC Flexes. All males and females more or less unconsciously perform a few cut-offs when they are through passing urine and forcefully expel the last few drops.

When you perform a forceful cut-off you are literally turning off a a faucet; so when the machinery within your faucet (PC muscle) becomes powerful you will easily be able to turn it off at the point of orgasm.

Discharged semen causes a loss of tension, but when the semen flow is cut off and retained, you can keep your “member in good standing” and come again and again (without ejaculation).

Cut-offs will help you identify your PC muscle and become familiar with its strength. Every time you urinate, stop the flow forcefully at least six times. The first time you try this, don’t worry if all you can manage is a momentary interruption in the flow.

PC Flexes can be performed anywhere at any time. They consist of tightening the anal sphincter (rectum) and the muscles at the base of the penis. When you do a correct PC Flex your penis will move slightly. You are doing PC Flexes when you have an erection and you tighten to make your penis move up and down.

Once you get use to tightening and flexing your PC muscle there are other ways this can be performed using your erection and a bath towel; you simple hang the towel over your erection and forcefully raise and lower your penis from 50 to 100 times. The idea is to give the penis some extra work to do. As the muscles get stronger, the erection will get harder, partly from the increased blood supply the exercise is causing your body to provide.

Go slowly at first, but within a week or 10 days you should be able to perform 300 forceful PC Flexes a day and within two months your muscle will be several times as strong as when you started.

PC Flexes can be unobtrusively performed (without an erection) while walking, sitting or lying down. If you do them with an erection it’s a good idea to hold a warm wet towel or wash cloth over the top base of the penis afterwards; this soothes and relaxes the vigorously used attachment muscles.
Within approximately six weeks after you’ve begun doing cut-offs and PC Flexes daily, you’ll be having longer, stronger, and better orgasms than ever before and closer to both climax control and the sustained pleasure of multiple orgasms.

Cut­offs will give you the feel of turning off your faucet and they will enormously benefit your control. The PC Flex will further develop control and your PC; without a powerful pubococcygeus muscle you cannot hope to become multiorgasmic.

The male who possesses a really powerful PC can maintain a firm erection for hours and enjoy more ecstatic orgasms during one sex episode then most men enjoy in a month.

So get started on this simple sex-strengthening program and turn your female’s fantasies into fact.

Premature Ejaculation

Premature Ejaculation:

What exactly is premature ejaculation?

Ejaculation that occurs prior to when a man wishes or too quickly during intercourse to satisfy the partner.

When most males ejaculate they tend to quickly lose a usable erection for the simple reason that their discharge has temporarily released a state of elevated sexual tension.

What are the causes of premature ejaculation?

It seems logical that our prehistoric male ancestors were all rapid ejaculators. The Homo Erectus who could couple quickly with his mate and repidly reach ejaculation was then free to deal with enemy tribesman and predatory sabre-toothed tigers. The slowpoke got clubbed or eaten.

Therefore, only rapid ejaculators survived long enough to sire descendants.

Thus, if speed of ejaculation were hereditary, we all should have fast ejaculatory reflexes.
Obviously, the above theory cannot be proven; however, it does contain an element of truth. It is probably “natural” for healthy males to ejaculate quickly. Lasting longer serves no genetic function that we know of.

Lasting is a learned behavior, like learning to dance. It can prolong and intensify pleasure for a man. Also, many women like to experience orgasm -or have been socially conditioned to enjoy orgasm – when the erect penis is inside them. To reach orgasm this way often requires periods of more or less continuous stimulation by the penis.

Premature ejaculation is sometimes also caused or aggrivated psychological factors such as guilt, fear, and performance anxiety.

The first thing a male must hold in mind is that good sex is unhurried sex. The longer he spends in foreplay prior to his first orgasm, the stronger and more enjoyable that first orgasm will be. The compacting of blood in the sex organs builds slowly, inflating the tissues and sensitizing the millions of nerve endings in and around the genitals.

Think of an orgasm like a balloon: the longer you blow air into it, the bigger it gets and the louder the bang when it pops.

Orgasm consists of two stages. One begins with the prostate gland, which encircles the urethra like a tiny donut above the base of the penis, contracts and releases its fluids, along with the contents of the seminal vesicle, into the urethra.

To most males this feels like you are going to start a good sneeze, but it’s too late to stop. Stage two is similar to the sneeze itself. The pelvic muscle contract strongly around the bulb, forcing the fluid out under considerable pressure.

Orgasm is what a man feels when all this is happening. He has probably learned for himself that it is possible to ejaculate without having an orgasm, but he may not yet realize that he can also have an orgasm without ejaculating. That’s exactly what you want to learn to do.

The average male in his twenties takes less than three minutes from the time of insertion till he comes. This cheats him of a lot of fun and satisfaction and doubly cheats the unfortunate female he prematurely has an orgasm into.

How do I prevent premature ejaculation from happening?

The most common treatment of premature ejaculation is to become more familiar with the feelings and sensations surrounding the time leading up to ejaculation.

By learning to become more familiar with these sensations, you can slowly learn how to predict when the upcoming ejaculation will occur and gain more control over them. This is known as your point of no return.

If you want to be able to enjoy long periods of intense pleasure without ejaculation, you need to discover your point of no return. Masturbate and concentrate on you feelings.

There is a point at which you will not be able to control your ejaculation anymore.

At that point, as hard as you try, you cannot stop yourself from ejaculating. You will have to ejaculate because ejaculation is a reflex: your brain sends messages through your spinal cord to your sex organs and orders ejaculation.

Once you have successfully discovered your point of no return do not let your arousal reach this point. You can eithr change your position or stop moving.

Other techniques you may consider are the “stop and start” and the “squeeze” methods.

The “stop and start” method. When, during thrusting, you feel yourself getting closer, cease all movement and press the pubic bone (under your pubic hair) against your mate’s pubic bone, thus pushing your penis in all the way.

Then both stop moving. (Tell her, “Resting time, love.”) When the urgency to ejaculate subsides, start thrusting again. Do this several times in a row.

It can also be practiced solo, using your hand instead of a vagina. A varation of this technique is to make several voluntary twitching movements of the penis while you are resting.

This can be done by rapidly flexing and relaxing the muscles that control the flow of urine.

Try to identify this muscle contraction next time that you urinate. This muscle is known as the PC muscle and is described clearly in the Multiple-Orgasm section below.

The “squeeze technique” method. This method, which has been proven highly successful in training men to last longer described in a book by Dr. Herbert E. Vendervoort and Rev. Ted Mcilvenna. This technique can also be practiced alone during masterbation.

One stimulates himself until he has had a firm erection for a while, squeezes, and repeats the process several times. After several squeezes, one should have much more intense ejaculation than usual.

During the no-intercourse period, the couple should explore one another sensually, caressing one another’s bodies with hands and mouth or by any other means, short of intercourse, that are pleasurable to both.

If the man’s penis becomes erect while his mate is caressing it, she can, at any time that feels right to her, apply the squeeze to his penis. Preferably this should take place before the man feels himself on the verge of ejaculating.

IF the women does the squeeze several times at her descretion, it can become part of her lovemaking technique.

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